The moment I saw those two red lines on my pregnancy test strip, I was confused!
I was happy, but I was afraid, I had no idea what I was getting into. I knew it is not going to be a cake walk, but gradually after a few ultrasound sessions I wanted to face this. All I wanted was, to be a mother to the little one in my womb. I was eagerly waiting to meet this soul more than anything.
Motherhood is beautiful, I have found my happiness for life after being a mother. But also the other side of it is crazy hard and I would still love to be a mother willingly all over again.
Being a mother, I found it is increasingly difficult to find time for myself and do things just for me. This New Years I made a promise, “I would make time for myself”. I feel it’s really important to do things, that you like. Because if you do not, you will be a person who have it all, but is still unhappy. And being a mother, it’s important to be happy in order to raise happy children.
Just a thought of taking some me time might over burden you with all that mom guilt. But hey ! You are not just a mom. You are a friend, you are a wife, you might be a singer, a painter, a chef, a lawyer. Being a mom is indeed the most important responsibility, but it’s not all that defines you. What you were as a person before being a mom has made you what you are today. You need to be connected to what you were, as one day you may have to or want to wear your old hat again.
Babies grow up in the blink of an eye, you will not realise when your tiny bird will be all prepared to fly on their own. If you don’t have interests and activities that fill you up outside of raising your children, you are going to feel very lost and alone.
You can’t help your child if you haven’t filled up your heart with life-giving oxygen. The more you fill up your personal fulfilment, the more you are able to pour into your children. Regularly, taking time for yourself helps you to be a better mom.
- So dress up mommy, go for that long due coffee with your best friend.
- Take time out for a long bubble bath, with your favourite Bollywood magazine.
- Pamper yourself with a massage session, a pedicure and get that pretty nail art done.
- Write the book that you are wanting to, since a long time.
- Book your tickets for a movie night, with your girl gang.
- Dress up your best and indulge in some retail therapy.
Whatever it is that you want to do, just live that moment to the fullest. Do not let that mom guilt ruin your time. Everything that you have to do, will be either taken care of or will be right there when you get back. Take my words, everything will be ok when you indulge in some me time. Trust me, it’s totally worth it, you will be a better person and a more happier and fulfilled momma to your children.