Today I am going to write about a person who has played a very important role in my life. She is a real super hero.. yes I call her my Fairy God Mother after I conceived my little princess.
So let me introduce you to my gynaecologist Dr. Rekha Agrawal. My story with her started long before I conceived and always I knew she will be the one for me.
The day I got the big news, I wasn’t ready for it; I thought this was not just the right time. It takes a right person with a certain kind of power to explain and convince a confused and stressed person who is about to make the biggest descision of their life. And she was the right person for me.
Further in my pregnancy, I was a stressed primee diagnosed with hyper tension. There she played the role of my mother -disciplined me to deal with things in my life with firmness. She actually taught me how to zone out all the advice that pregnant women get from everywhere around and just focus on what’s important for me. She was the one who made me realise nothing other than my little one should be more important to me right now.
It’s very important for a patient to confine in their doctor. She knows exactly how to maintain the doctor and patient relationship. She could easily read between the lines and sense what I was trying to convey.
I gradually started enjoying my pregnancy and it was only because of her. I started enjoying my monthly visits, I would always book the last appointment for the day and she would patiently sit and have a small chat with me over a cup of coffee. That few minutes of chit chatting with my Doctor had so much power. It made me feel happy, confident and energenitc to deal with all the pregnancy blues.
I enjoyed sharing my journey of nine months with her, she is always one of the finest memories from my pregnancy days. Of course she is a wonderful doctor but most importantly she is a wonderful human being. The best statement I learned from her which I now tell all my pregnant friends is ” you are not sick or ill you are pregnant, so just enjoy and stay active”.
Thankyou so much for making my preagnancy a wonderful experience
An over possessive mother. Yes that’s what I am normally referred to as these days. But do I really care? When it comes to my baby everything around is not just as important. What people think of me does not really matter.
It all started with the day we got her home, my husband and I were very strict about hands being sanitised before anyone would touch her. But many times people misunderstood our love and precaution and termed us over protective parents.
There were times the little kiddy sweethearts of our extended family would get all excited to see and hold a tiny little baby in their hands. However we were too scared to let them hold our little world in their not so experienced hands. We were again called insensitive towards the innocent feelings of those little children and a super possessive couple for their new born.
We were and are still very particular about her sleep 😴. If she is asleep I personally do not like to wake her up on purpose. Nothing in this is world is really worth disturbing her sleep. But there are people visiting who really want to spend some time with her and feel how does it matter if she wakes up an hour early from her nap. I am sorry but I simply won’t allow that.
Being a new mom, I panic even at the chance of minor infections and a little fever and I I want to rush to a doctors asap! I am being judged there too!! “Bacchcho ke Saath yeh sab chalta hai”! I am sorry I can’t take it so lightly!!
Often I am told if I continue this behaviour there will be a time when no body will want to spend time with her. But I don’t think so! If she is really important to you, you will understand. I am a mother who is just a little more worried about her child, I am inexperienced, I want to take precaution, I want to avoid accidents. With time I will probably settle down and let her be!! I might be possessive for the world but that’s what I am that’s my way of loving her.
There were only a few set of people who really understood my feelings and intenssions behind my over possessiveness. And I seriously thank them for being so supportive.
Everybody has their own style of parenting, judging them or naming them with terms like over possessive or being careless is just not acceptable.
Have you ever experienced a similar situation in your parenting journey??